Reducing Parental Conflict



Sometimes parents simply do not want to complete an intervention together including mediation our couple counselling. They do want to resolve the conflict with one another but being told to resolve their issues together is not the message they want to hear.
One-to-one meetings to discuss the nature of the conflict, the harm of from parental conflict and the long-term benefits to their children of cooperative parenting.
Providing good information and encouragement to be non-combative is another option. Depending on the issues are causing conflict, the intervention could cover:
* Learning about and understanding your parenting style and what it means to co-parent
* Co-parenting conflicts and behavioural responses
* Conflict within Blended Families
* Effects of separation on children
* Effects of parental conflict on children
* Putting children first to ensure positive long-term outcomes
* Effective communication and positive change
* Sustaining positive changes.

Mayday’s ‘Co-parenting Without Conflict’ is an intervention undertaken with co-parenting couples or with groups of parents. It can be either through support sessions or workshops.
Our trainers facilitate our ‘Train the Trainer’ programme that will enable participants to deliver the intervention.
The programme encourages parents to understand the impact of parental conflict on their children by viewing things from the child’s perspective.
The aims and outcomes of the programme are, but is not limited to:
• educating parents about conflict and the negative behaviours that promote and escalate the co-parenting conflict;
• teaching parents practical conflict resolution skills to promote positive change in the co-parenting relationship and reduce the adverse impact of parental conflict on their children;
• guide parents to improve how they communicate and reduce the opportunities for conflict;
• guide parents to establish or re-establish a child-centred approach to co-parenting or shared parenting;
• making sure the child’s voice is inherent in the intervention
• work with parents on strategies, develop a plan to implement and sustain change.
Our Co-parenting without Conflict programme is based on Mayday’s toolkit. It contains various tools designed for use in the intervention according to needs. Its flexibility allows for direct work with adults, in assessing and intervening and crucially capturing the child’s wishes and feelings.
What you will get with this programme:
• 2-day train the trainer programme
• The intervention programme and toolkit

Mayday’s “What About Me” programme is a 6-week group intervention for fathers to help them understand the impact of destructive parental conflict on the children. Our trainers facilitate a ‘Train the Trainer’ programme that will enable participants to deliver the intervention.
The programme encourages fathers to understand the impact of parental conflict on their child by viewing things from the child’s perspective. It also highlights the importance of the father’s role in their child’s life and how they can promote a sense of well-being and confidence in their child.
The aims and outcomes of the programme are, but not limited to:
• Helping fathers to understand how destructive parental conflict affects the co parent relationship.
• Supporting fathers to understand the impact of parental conflict on their child.
• Importance of fathers in a child life
• Protecting their child from exposure to Child Adversities
• Teaching fathers to recognise the signs of Child Trauma.
• To help fathers promote constructive communication with the co parent and the child.
• Empower fathers to increase empathic responses to their child

This programme is designed for Practitioners to support parents. It focuses on interpersonal conflict and conflict types and the behaviours and responses that increase escalation. The aims and outcomes of the programme are, but is not limited to:
* knowledge and understanding of different conflict types;
* knowledge and understanding of conflictive behaviours that increase parental conflict and escalating and become difficult to resolve;
* knowledge and understanding of crucial conflict resolutions strategies to support parents to make change;
* using a range of critical skills to intervene and support parents to reduce the adverse impact of parental conflict on their children;
* embedding equality and diversity into everyday practice (optional), including engaging with fathers.
Toolkit and Ideas to Assess and Intervene
Practitioners will have access to our toolkit and will be able to select tools to intervene with families. We have included tools for direct work with children to make their voices heard when working with their parents.

The aim of this workshop is to equip all practitioners and managers with the skills and knowledge to work more confidently with parents who are displaying complex and challenging behaviour. Parents may have experienced their own Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE’s) resulting from intergenerational destructive parental conflict and can struggle to acknowledge their behaviour is harming the children. They can also feel judged and blamed and often withdraw from support as many practitioners focus on the presenting symptoms and may be fearful of making things worse. This programme will empower front line practitioners to use their professional curiosity and improve outcomes with families by:
* Eliminating Domestic Abuse by increasing their knowledge of Coercive Control and Situational Violence
* Recognising and responding to the signs of Parental Alienation
* Exploring how unconscious bias can be a barrier to achieving positive outcomes
* Approaching the families through a Trauma Lens
* Engaging more confidently with challenging parents
* Incorporating Social Graces to build rapport with parents and children
* Confidently capturing the child’s lived experience by identifying their role within the conflict
* Providing de-escalation strategies to improve constructive communication between parents

To deliver individual or combined modules from the existing RPC programme (below) on a platform of your choice virtually or face to face depending on when you would like the training delivered.
Module 1: Understanding the parental conflict evidence-base
Providing practitioners with the knowledge to underpin practice, this introductory workshop explores the evidence base and the impact of parental conflict on outcomes for children.
Module 2: Identify and discuss parental conflict with parents
Focusing on the causes of parental conflict, this workshop equips practitioners with the skills to work with parents to identify and explore relationship conflict.
Module 3: Working with parents in conflict
This skills-based workshop introduces a series of tools that can be used to work with parents, encouraging behaviour change and promoting positive communication.
Module 4: The role of supervisors and managers in managing people to address parental conflict
Aimed at supervisors and managers, this workshop focuses on the importance of recognising parental conflict, with an aim to develop the skills to coach and support practitioners.