Specialising in Coercive Control Narcissistic Abuse and Parental Alienation
Welcome to Mayday Domestic Abuse Services
Experts in Coercive Control Support, Training, and Intervention
Domestic abuse can deeply impact individuals, families, and children, often in ways that are difficult to recognise. It includes behaviours such as coercive control, narcissistic abuse, and parental alienation, which can undermine emotional and psychological well-being.
At Mayday Domestic Abuse Services, we specialise in providing expert support and practical solutions to help families affected by domestic abuse. We work alongside individuals, parents’ legal representatives, local authorities, and safeguarding professionals to address these challenges and prioritise the safety of children.
Who We Help
Individuals and Families
Whether you’re seeking guidance through care proceedings or working to rebuild your family after abuse, we are here to help. Our services are tailored to meet your unique needs.
Parents’ Legal Representatives
We collaborate with legal representatives to provide detailed assessments and reports that ensure children’s needs are prioritised in court proceedings.
Local Authorities and Professionals
We deliver impartial assessments and evidence-based recommendations to support safeguarding decisions and ensure the well-being of children and families.
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What Is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is the systematic pattern of behaviour on the part of the abuser designed to control his partner. The abuse can be physical, emotional, psychological, financial or sexual. Anyone forced to alter their behaviour because the [ Read More ]
Examples Of Domestic Violence
All forms of gender-based violence are against the law. Are you being abused? Is your partner excessively jealous and possessive? Is he charming one minute and abusive the next? Does he have sudden changes of mood R [ Read More ]
Help For Victims
Domestic abuse national numbers National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247 or email helpline@refuge.org.uk Refuge: refuge.org.uk Emergency services: 999General support Samaritans: 116 123 | www.samaritans.org [ Read More ]
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Case Studies
Case Study
A referral 5 years earlier to children’s services reported domestic violence in the home where there were 4 young children. The mother was under the influence of illegal substances and had hit the father with a bottle in the head causing a cut. The father reported being a victim of domestic violence but later retracted the allegation. There was no further action from Children’s Services.
Our Approach
The children were subject to Child Protection (CP) plans, and within the first 3 months, a member of Mayday’s team was commissioned to provide discreet 1 to 1 support over 6 sessions in which he revealed a volatile 10-year relationship. The father explained his experiences which our worker identified as Gaslighting. She explained he was experiencing cognitive dissonance and how this was impacting on his ability to safeguard himself and his children.
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As a 45 -year-old father of 3 boys and having called the Police 4 times in the past 7 years I had given up trying to prove my wife was alienating the children and causing the arguments. Thanks to Alison’s advice and support, my Social Worker now realises that I am the victim and not the perpetrator and my wife has been issued with a non-molestation order. Nobody can imagine what it’s like to be accused of putting your children at risk when you are trying to protect them. Alison has this great tool she uses and it’s as if she knew my wife already but had never met her. We never actually met as I live in Middlesbrough but we did most of our sessions through skype and I kept telling her my children are being harmed by their mum. I was shocked that she instantly knew what I was talking about and she even told me some of the things my children would be doing which reassured me I was not losing my mind. I think that although some Police Officers have training in Coercive Control, it’s only the tip of the iceberg. The support I have been given is exceptional and if Social Workers understood this type of abuse children would be much safer.
Doug, Middlesbrough
In 2018 I visited my doctor as I thought I was going mad and was prescribed antidepressants having told him I was having relationship issues. After attempting counselling and wondering why things weren’t changing, I was given Alison’s details and she confirmed I was a victim of Coercive Control. With her support and advice, she guided me through the Court process to safeguard my children and to take back control of my life. I feel it is so very important for professionals to understand how coercive control affects the victims. I personally know someone with a small baby who has been suicidal due to manipulation and gaslighting from her ex and I have been able to advise her and enlisted Alison to support her, she now has her eyes wide open and won’t let him control her thoughts and emotions anymore and her baby daughter is now able to bond with her mum again.
Kirsty, Herefordshire
Without Alison’s involvement, Social Care would have placed my children with their father as I would never have been able to convince professionals that he was a risk to the girls. He was very convincing and made the Social Worker think I had mental health problems but due to Alison’s knowledge of Coercive Control, she exposed his behaviour to the Social Worker and helped me to protect my 2 daughters. When I initially spoke to the GP about my concerns, I was horrified they signposted me to Healthy Minds indicating I had mental health problems and I just felt nobody understood what I was going through. If my GP had been trained in this area. I might have got help earlier and not spent so many years going around in circles.
Sarah, Berkshire
Alison has turned my legal case around and I’m no longer a nervous wreck and my children are now safe. Her knowledge of narcissistic personality disorder and the techniques to manage their behaviour at their worst is life-changing for victims and all professionals need to be trained as these behaviours are placing children at risk. I can now live my life without fear and I am making huge progress due to the support and advice Alison has given me. Her approach and tools would support all professionals to recognise children living in households where narcissism is present.
